Friday, January 30, 2009

My Weekend to dos:

1. write my essay for my public relations class

2. write paper for psychology of personality class

3. Record all of my fiances on mint.com

Thursday, January 29, 2009

Venting

(Along with everything else that has been going on) Lately i have felt defeated. I am just venting about the way i have been feeling lately and not really a drama queen

So ever since my husband wrecked my car( a big fender bender) i have been very depressed. Not the kind of depressed that i am in a bad mood all of the time and not wanting to do anything but i have had different feelings about things. The day of the fender bender, i was so up set i just said nothing and when we got home i just layed on my bed for hours (needing to get my homework done)just not feeling like doing anything at that moment.i was so careful with this car because we have liablity only it is a 1986 black rusty buick centry it runs great and looked decient before the fender bender. So now i get to drive around a smashed car and then on monday the muffler fell off making my car so loud my windows shake. I love my husband with all of my being but he is causing me so much greef and struggle that i asked my mom for help in a very sutle way she asked if she could help out. My husband got 2 $100 citations in a matter of a couple of months. And now i am paranoid as hell that i will get one for my muffler ( we are getting a new one on sat) it seems the the police are flocking to us (which seems to happen once a year for a few months) so back to my point with my husband it feels like he is just floating through life with out a care in the world while i am struggling keeping us a float, house clean,laundry done, homework done, cars working, dogs taken care off ect. I feel he is the child and i am the parent. He isn't a looser at any means he has two jobs where he reaches a little over 40 hours a week. i just feel alone right now..... he appoligzed for wrecking my car but now i have to have the stress every day of driving a smashed car.....i have talked to him about this..........and he does a ton of little things for me mostly when i ask............but i don't want to ask........im sick of asking............ i don't want to blame this on my mother in law but it seems like my husband has no sense of responsiblity and that if something happens he thinks of an excuse........ i think ill try to have a talk with him and see how it goes...........it just seems like he is clueless about everything...... i asked him to call around about mufflers and he called one place and then when i asked him questions such as does the $145.00 the guy is charging include labor, he said something to the effect....people don't ask those things.......WTF............really im not angry........my husband even stated that when he has wrecked my cars in the past that i screamed and yelled at him.........this time i didn't.......i was very upset in the most depressed way..........he has to do things the hard way and that is what causes me the most greef........that is the main reason that i do not want to have children at this time or ever with him because i cant take care of me, and his mistakes and my home and a child and work full time...........i just wish he was more of the "man" and head of the house hold and not me.......but i chose my own destinay.......oh god please help me.........:)

Sunday, January 25, 2009

my newest stone.........blue fluorite



I have wanted a blue fluorite for a while now but haven't been able to find it of course i didn't really look either. My husband found three or so pieces at the first place we looked. I guess its like amethyst and it is very easy to find. This particular stone has called to me per say. I can't believe i didn't find this stone sooner. It is perfect for me, my personality type and i feel it will help me be a better me.


Blue Fluorite -
are just spectacular! Blue Fluorite is a rarer color of Fluorite and has the sweetest vibration. This is a limited supply of Blue Fluorite Chips from Nimibia, Africa. All of this Blue Fluorite is translucent.

Fluorite is a highly protective and stabilizing stone, useful for grounding and harmonizing spiritual energy. When working with the upper Chakras, Fluorite increases intuitive abilities, links the human mind to universal consciousness, and develops connection to Spirit. Fluorite further anchors intuitive insights into the physical plane, allowing mental and physical coordination.

Fluorite heightens mental abilities, assisting in rapid organization and processing of information, and can bring mental clarity and stability to an otherwise chaotic situation. Fluorite absorbs negative energies from the environment and is effective at Auric and Chakra cleansing. Fluorite can also shield the user from psychic manipulation. Fluorite should be cleared often.

In addition to the general metaphysical uses of Fluorite, there are additional traits associated with different types of Fluorite. Fluorite occurs naturally in many colors, and slightly different additional properties are associated with each color.

When used with the Third Eye Chakra, Blue Fluorite brings spiritual awaking and clear communication between the physical and spiritual planes. Used with the Throat Chakra, Blue Fluorite aids in orderly communication of intuitive insights. The calm, serene energy of Blue Fluorite brings inner peace.


















Possible careers from the meyers-brings test
Careers

This lists represent careers and jobs people of your type tend to enjoy doing. The job requirements are similar to the personality tendencies of your personality type. It is important to remember that this is not a list of all the jobs possible. And it is very important to remember that people can, and frequently do, fill jobs that are dissimilar to their personality... this happens all the time...and sometimes works out quite well.

career counselor
psychologist
educational consultant
special education teacher
librarian
artist
playwright
novelist/poet
editor/art director
information-graphics...designer
HRM manager
merchandise planner
environmental lawyer
marketer
job analyst
mental health counselor
dietitian/nutritionist
research
educational consultant
architects
interpreter/translator

Tuesday, January 20, 2009

A different america.

I am not in any way into politics. I don't keep up with it. Also i am a pretty passive person so i think politics are pretty aggressive. In my public relations class we discussed Obama a little bit and he has to have the most charisma of any one out there. its amazing how he has everyone in the palm of his hand and getting everyone to want to make a better American and not just promise something that can't be fulfilled. You know the world is changing for the better when there was once mass amounts of black slavery and now we have a black president. This extreme change excites me. I am excited to see what the next 4 years will bring and i think i will keep up on the politics this time. I was at work when Obama gave his inagueral speech is i found it on this site

http://www.facebook.com/ext/share.php?sid=46399239071&h=rEZXR&u=nIBL0

On a personal note. My husband and i hosted a sushi making party at our house this sunday. We had salmon and shrimp and tuna. it cost each guest $10 each and we could make as much sushi as we wanted it was a lot of fun i will post some picutures soon. Our freind benett had the idea and brought the food while we hosted our small house worked perfectly. we kind of set up an assembly line. about 11 ish people showed up i think next time bennett suggested he get unage (eel ) which i am up for that.

Tuesday, January 13, 2009


Its true that being "in the now" makes you stress free. I don't really literally see things in a different light. I just feel different. Its strange because its all most like a kind of confidence i have now. At work i wasn't stressed that i didn't know how long i was going to be there. We were short handed and i wasn't stressed out about. Didn't say much of any thing negative. On Friday i had my 1 on 1 meeting with my boss.( i usually hate 1 on1's because my first on my boss threatened to move me to a different area if i didn't nag my trainer to get trained) the one true thing about my personality is i DO NOT !!! respond well to threats i shut down. Any way, my boss told me on Friday. How well i was doing, how he hasn't received complaints about my mistakes and that he is pleased with my work. I told him how hard i was working to improve this. He told me he was going to try to get me a raise and talk to the boss above him. So i am hoping and praying i get this raise because i have been with my jobfor a year and i did not receive one like i was told i would. ( i took a pay cut to have this job and the only reason i took it was because my "other" boss told me i would get a raise in 3 months, which never happened.) So we are having trouble saving money, so we had a friend move in. I just pray i get a raise for the sake of fiances. I am very happy to be back in school so far. i feel like i a working toward a better future. my first class was on Monday it went very well. I think i was the most social in the class of 11 which was a enormous improvement. i need to talk more and stop being shy its ridiculous and being in the now has helped with that

Monday, January 12, 2009

subconsciously thinking about work........

Friday morning i woke up to my husband laying next to me looking at me. He stated you are so cute you were talking in your sleep about acid. I apparently was talking in my sleep naming all of the different kinds of acid i use a work, hydocloric acid, phosphoric acid, proprionic acid......i apparently have work on my subconscious.

Saturday, January 10, 2009

Ramblings in A Minor


I made cinnamon rolls from scratch today. I found out that, it is not a recipe for the baking novice. I didn't think that they were that good but others did. I wanted the OH MY GOD!!! factor in it since it was a cinnabon recipe. I think i have my piano sold finally. I like Crag's list only thing is.,You can only have one person come over to look at the thing you are selling. And then if they don't want it after looking at it you've wasted your time and then you have email another person and then another and so on. And then it wastes your time and your day. I thought i had the piano sold last week, but then the peeps couldn't find some where to store the piano for 3 months, come on why even look then, i was disappointed because i thought i had it sold. So a guy came to look at it today. And he even gave me the money $20.00 and he said he would pick it up tomorrow. Fingers crossed he does and just doesn' t want his money back. He played every key, i could tell he was a pro at playing. It was so cold today it snowed a couple of inchs yesterday and it was a surprise. I scooped the sidewalks and driveway ( my husband and roommate were at work so i had to do it) and i took 3 boxes of junk out to the trash. man i knew i was a pack rat, but this is rediculus. i kept everything i mean everything from college in the way of text books, papers ect. I have started dejunking my basement and it is going to be a long road to go through all of the boxes of junk. Im just taking it room by room and box/pile by box/pile with a donate/trash/keep/sell/ upstares box to put stuff in. I am not donating anything to the salvation army i was recently told they do not support gay marriage so i made sure not to give anything to the bell ringers this year.

I want to get the piano out of here tomorrow because we are having a sushi making party next weekend. I am so excited. It will be a lot of fun. My husband and I are hosting the party of 8-10 of his co-worker friends. We will be shown how to do it and then we can make our own. We are going to set up little stations. So we need the piano out of there so we have room. Our house is the get together house so many people tell me they love hanging out here. Last summer every weekend we had people over. It was getting to be to much and expensive. Any way back to the piano. My friend from high school's wife gave me her childhood piano. If i new how bad a dozen of the strings needed to be replaced i wouldn't of had my best guy freind bring it over. It would not keep in tune. 6 months after tuning it it was out of tune again. It just wasn't worth haveing it tool up to much room. In the future i am going to get an electric piano. They don't need to be tuned and are smaller

Friday, January 9, 2009

Activating the Now

A month or so ago i was listening to the Power of Now book by Eckart Tolle. I was interested yet kind of apprehensive by this new way of thinking. And then by the time i listened to the very end of the book i couldn't remember why or how to live in the now. I couldn't remember how to do it.
So i started to listen to it again and pay closer attention. Its kind of scary thinking the "pain body" as a creature feeding off of you.
I have have a tons of guilt, for what i have no idea, and now i realize it was my past, and most of my stress comes from the future. I don't see things in a" different light" per say say like the man's voice stated about the tree. i hope to some day. i believe i have been living in the now all day today, stress about fiances came up and i didn't get a sick anxiety. The only thing that i wonder is how much in the now do you have to stay. If you think of all the things you have to do today and how you have to do them isn't nessaryly in the now. How far can think ahead, ect before it is not in the now? im sure talking about thinking about the future isn't in the now. but that was just one thing that came into my head while trying to stay in the now. i think this will be a great and the most useful practic for me. i have also been having a small physical pain (craps and when i do not dewell on it i just stop and think of now.....(its hard to explain) the pain disapates

Thursday, January 8, 2009

What's Your Design Style?


Ethnic Eclectic

Your style is a mix of bohemian chic and contemporary ethnic flair. Whether you travel extensively or shop locally, chances are good that your home is filled with a collection of interesting accessories. By contrast, a neutral color scheme and furniture with simple lines is the best backdrop to accentuate your most colorful pieces. To achieve this mix-and-match design style, look to nature. "The concern with the environment is playing a big role in interior design trends – from colors you find in nature, to high-end natural fibers in wall coverings, to exotic woods and stone being used throughout the home," says Denise Turner, an interior designer in Alta Loma, California. It's all about simple lines and natural materials as a backdrop for your collectables and artwork.

Design Tips for Ethnic Eclectic

Contemporary and chic accessories go with any style. Dress up family-friendly comfort in the dining room with a sophisticated Murano glass light fixture that's out of the reach of little hands. Or, make the master bedroom your grown-up retreat with soothing colors from the garden and a wooden platform bed with a trendy upholstered headboard.

Whats been going on.....not much

My brother called me tonight i haven't talked to him in a while. We are usually pretty close besides the fact is that he is an incredible asshole. Any way he certainly isn't an asshole to his gorgeous and nice girl friend. My brother is almost 24years old and he has just told his first girl friend that he loves her after nearly a year of dating. its cute to see my brother with her i always tease him about marrying her but she is only 19. I hope my brother treats her good i always tell her to put the smack down on my brother if he doesn't treat her good. She gets upset ( in the way of sadness) they way my family talks to each other, its not mean, we just are loud and joke around and she isn't used to that. Her family is pretty reserved. Any way i still haven't given my family their christmas presents yet. i really don't want to go back to holdrege if i don't have too. anyway i was sick today from work with a cold/ flu and i cant seem to get over it. i have taken, zinc vita c, pro-biotics, zicam, wal-born and have be using a humidifier with vicks vapor solution. im feeling a little better but not completely i have had a headach on the left side of my head for 2 days and am hoping for it to go away soon. i am still debating weather or not i should go to work tomorrow. they are not expecting me..........well to bed i go

10 Tips on Finding Your Style

http://www.hgtv.com/decorating/10-tips-to-find-your-style/index.html

10 Tips on Finding Your Style

Find your home decorating style with these 10 tips from Designer Karen McAloon, host of Find Your Style.

1.Multiples. Do you have multiple items of the same color, shape or style around your house? This is one big "tell" I look for as I look through clients' homes. A kilim rug in the front hall, a kilim rug in the bedroom, another one in the living room? That means that you like kilim rugs. It sounds way too simple to be that easy, but most people stop seeing their style even when it's right in front of them.

2. Form over function. Do you work on a desk that is too small, but can't bear to replace it? Have a couch that is crazy uncomfortable, but it's still in you living room after all these years? That broken clock that's still up on the wall? Take a good long look, because this is a dead giveaway to your personal style. There is something you love so much about this piece that you have chosen its form over your need for function.

3. Where you shop. Do you browse the same store all the time, even when you're not looking to buy? Does a good flea market make you heart pound with excitement? Where you look for your furnishings speaks volumes about your style. New, used, found, handed down from family; where your furniture comes from represents your style.

4. Art. What you have chosen to hang on your walls says something about you. Art is purely personal, not tied to function or need and therefore is usually the best indication of your style. A vintage movie poster means you probably like classic lines in furniture, while an abstract lithograph likely means that modern design is your bag. Flea market oil painting of someone else's relative? Eclectic is your style.

5. Most recent purchase. A French country dish towel that caught your eye in the store, or an impulse buy of a Tiffany-style lamp that you thought you'd never like, but do. The last thing you bought for your home is a fantastic indicator of what your style is, especially if it is design departure for you.

6. What unites your stuff? Do you have terra-cottas, rusts and warm yellows all around your house? These are the sun-kissed colors of Mediterranean design, so you should look for rough-hewn wood tables, terra-cotta lamps and vases to polish up your style. Does all your furniture have lean, sharp lines, and you don't have a single thing on your mantel? Your style is thoroughly modern. Whether it's color, scale, shape or era, the uniting element in your home is the best place to start when looking for your style.

7. What's your favorite hotel? This is my secret weapon in finding a client's design style. Always stay in cozy country B&Bs? Like the modern city high-rise hotel? Or do you go more for the traditionally furnished places? Hotels have clear design styles, so use them to help you find YOUR style.

8. Odd man out. When there is one piece different from everything else in your room, take note. Chances are, this is one style you like, but are afraid to fully venture into.

9. Travel. Where you chose to spend your vacations, and what you bring back with you are great style indicators. Always go to Mexico on your holidays and have a full set of cobalt-blue wine glasses? You like the hacienda look. Love your family vacations at the beach and have jars of seashells in your bathroom? Coastal cottage is your style.

10. Best room in the house. What's your most fave room in your home? Look to your best design work and repeat it. There is nothing wrong with having all your rooms designed similarly. In fact, it can bring a calm and serene feel to your house.

my design style


COUNTRY 'N' MODERN

It sounds unlikely, but rural properties are amazingly adaptable to a modern style - as your home proves. The country-meets-modern look draws on natural materials and, very often, the immediate landscape for inspiration. The result perfectly combines the simplicity of colour and form without overlooking basic comfort. What's more, it needn't cost a fortune.

Living Room

You have a comfortably contemporary living room. The danger with the 'modern look' is that it too easily falls into the realm of the bland and insipid; 'easy' gets confused with 'careless' and the result is just downright dull! Perhaps of all the rooms in our homes, the living room can be the one that most expresses your sense of style and your interests. Think, too, about how and when you will most use the room. For example, do you want it light and airy or warm and cosy? Try introducing one or two unexpected elements when choosing your accessories: one of the positives of the modern look is that it is very accommodating. Earthy (but not sludgy) colours work well in both rural and urban settings, while glamorous prints and patterns are fun and stylish. Make comfort the priority in your living room: it's where you naturally go to watch TV, relax and de-stress.

Bedroom

Your bedroom has that classic look that never goes out of style. Sleep is fundamentally important to our well being. Clean, fresh air can truly aid sleep, but so, too, does a well-made bed and the best mattress you can afford. Touch is an important issue in the bedroom, from crisp, linen sheets to wool or even sheepskin underfoot. Elegance and relative simplicity are keynotes in your bedroom, using vibrant colours to make a bold statement.

Dining Room

You're a bonafide alpha-male entertainer. At home, cool, sleek, masculine lines and colours give your dining area that slick, 'stealth wealth' feel. You can avoid it all becoming too clinical through careful use of colour and texture. Avoid harsh primary colours and opt instead for linen napkins in subtle, muted colours, say, or dine by candlelight to add a touch of glamour to evening meals. When it comes to entertaining, you like quite simple (some might say 'peasant') food with big, robust flavours.

Home Office

A little of what you fancy does you good -- even when you're working. These days, almost all of us have a home office: a desk and a chair in one corner of the living room with adjustable task lighting and adequate filing is all it takes (and might be all the space you can afford). Your innate sense of style will probably lead you to creating a work space that's as individual as the rest of your home. Just bear in mind basic ergonomic principles, especially when choosing a desk and chair.

Conclusion

Your home combines the best of old and new, rural and metropolitan, to prove you really can have it all!





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Wednesday, January 7, 2009

what to do with my degrees when i get them

I am a planner almost to a fault i want to make sure i can find a great job that pays the amount i want and have amazing benifits.
Jobs i can get with an organizational communications degree:


communication in business and not-for-profit organizations. This major integrates course work in the fields of communication, business, psychology, sociology, writing, and research. You will develop skills demanded in today's workplace and learn the importance of communication in the growth of an organization.
You will learn how to interact with and motivate people, sell ideas and products, promote organizations and events, build productive teams, and train and develop people. Attention is paid to the improvement of written and oral communication skills and to the ethics of human interaction.


Career FieldsOrganizational Communication graduates are employed in such fields as:
Advertising
Marketing
Human Resources
Training and Development
Radio and Television
Journalism
Consulting
Research
Public Relations
Political Advising

my first choice was degree in human services i am great with people have been working with them for most of my working life, i worked as a nursing assistant in high school and college and i was an animal control officer after college. Human services doen't pay much and if you want to have a high paying position in this feild better get a Ph D.

Job opportunities for human relation professionals are expected to be excellent, particularly for applicants with appropriate postsecondary education. The number of social and human service assistants is projected to grow much faster than the average for all occupations through 2012.
Demand may be particularly strong for certain specialists. Employers are expected to devote greater resources to job-specific training programs in response to the increasing complexity of many jobs, the aging of the workforce, and technological advances that can leave employees with obsolete skills. This should result in particularly strong demand for training and development specialists. In addition, increasing efforts throughout industry to recruit and retain quality employees should create many jobs for employment, recruitment, and placement specialists. Source: U.S. Department of Labor, Occupation Outlook 2004-05
Human Relations PositionsHuman relations professionals usually work in a variety of fields and may include titles such as:
Human Service Worker
Employment and placement manager
Recruiter
Labor Relations Manager
Human Resource Manager/Director
Social Worker
Community Support Worker
Mental Health Aide
Community Outreach Worker
Life Skills Counselor

I am evaluating my self, life ect to try and find out what i truely want to do as a carreer. I am also trying to network as much as possible because that is how my sister-in- laws recieved the jobs that they have that pay well and that they love.

On another yet slightly the same note. I don't everthink i really new myself on most personality tests i couldn't decide what to put. i remember one question stating : do you walk with long slow stride or short quick ones. I don't know, i walk fast i remember thinking. i think i spent all my life trying to be like others that i wasn't figuring out who i was, but when the meyers-briggs test stated think back to when you where 12 years old and answer the questions. i was very very very shy, i cleaned my room for fun, i had everything in an order and i would freak out if my younger brothers trashed my room, i didn't like to get dirty, man i had a ton of friends( not like i do now* sarcasm*) i was less paranoid. anyway so i have been able to answer personality test questions alot easier now that i am away from influnences that inticed me to not be myself. I am my self the most around my husband. He is the only one that knows the true me and loves me for it he has to be the most amazing person i ever met.... we have our ups and downs but i don't think i have ever felt such a love before that he has for me. its just nice to know that through all the rough times that he is always there... you know that song even though we don't got money im so in love with ya honey...........sucky song but the lyrics are us anyway........enough for now time to get back to work.

Tuesday, January 6, 2009

Who am i ? I never knew .............This is the ONLY personality test that has discribed me to a T

Myers Briggs Personality Type? INFJ

Dominant Introverted Intuition
INTJ & INFJ     What is it like?

Myers-Briggs description


The MBTI instrument

The MBTI preferences indicate the differences in people based on the following:[5]

By using their preference in each of these areas, people develop what Jung and Myers called psychological type. This underlying personality pattern results from the dynamic interaction of their four preferences, in conjunction with environmental influences and their own individual tendencies. People are likely to develop behaviors, skills, and attitudes based on their particular type. Each personality type has its own potential strengths as well as areas that offer opportunities for growth.

The MBTI tool consists of multiple choice questions that sort respondents on the basis of the four "dichotomies" (pairs of psychological opposites). Sixteen different outcomes are possible, each identified by its own four-letter code, referred to by initial letters. (N is used for iNtuition, to differentiate it from Introversion). The MBTI is approximately 75% accurate according to its own manual.[6]

  • I - Introversion preferred to Extraversion
  • N - iNtuition preferred to Sensing
  • F - Feeling preferred to Thinking
  • J - Judging preferred to Perceiving

[edit] Characteristics of INFJs

INFJs are conscientious and value-driven. They seek meaning in relationships, ideas, and events, with an eye toward better understanding themselves and others. Using their intuitive skills, they develop a clear vision, which they then execute decisively to better the lives of others. Like their INTJ counterparts, INFJs regard problems as opportunities to design and implement creative solutions.[7]

INFJs are quiet, private individuals who prefer to exercise their influence behind the scenes. Although very independent, INFJs are intensely interested in the well-being of others. INFJs prefer one-on-one relationships to large groups. Sensitive and complex, they are adept at understanding complicated issues and driven to resolve differences in a cooperative and creative manner. [8]

Accounting for 1–3% of the population,[9] INFJs have a rich, vivid inner life, which they may be reluctant to share with those around them. Nevertheless, they are congenial in their interactions, and perceptive of the emotions of others. Generally well-liked by their peers, they may often be considered close friends and confidants by most other types. However, they are guarded in expressing their own feelings, especially to new people, and so tend to establish close relationships slowly. INFJs tend to be easily hurt, though they may not reveal this except to their closest companions. INFJs may "silently withdraw as a way of setting limits," rather than expressing their wounded feelings.[10] This behavior may leave others confused and upset.

INFJs tend to be sensitive, quiet leaders with a great depth of personality. They are intricately and deeply woven, mysterious, and highly complex, sometimes puzzling even to themselves. They have an orderly view toward the world, but are internally arranged in a complex way that only they could understand. Abstract in communicating, they live in a world of hidden meanings and possibilities. With a natural affinity for art, INFJs tend to be creative and easily inspired.[11] Yet they may also do well in the sciences, aided by their intuition.[12]

[edit] Cognitive functions

For each personality type, the cognitive functions—sensing, intuition, thinking, and feeling—form a hierarchy. This represents the person's "default" pattern of behavior in their day to day life. The Dominant is the personality type's preferred role, the one they feel most comfortable with. The secondary function, the Auxiliary, serves to support and expand on the dominant function. If the Dominant is an information gathering function (sensing or intuition), the Auxiliary is a decision making function (thinking or feeling), and vice versa. The tertiary function is less developed than the Dominant and Auxiliary, but it develops as the person matures, providing roundness of ability. The inferior function is the personality type's Achilles' heel. This is the function they are least comfortable with. Like the tertiary function, the inferior function strengthens with maturity.[13]

  • Dominant Introverted Intuition (Ni)
  • Auxiliary Extraverted Feeling (Fe)
  • Tertiary Introverted Thinking (Ti)
  • Inferior Extraverted Sensing (Se)[13]
  • The Protector

    As an INFJ, your primary mode of living is focused internally, where you take things in primarily via intuition. Your secondary mode is external, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit with your personal value system.

    INFJs are gentle, caring, complex and highly intuitive individuals. Artistic and creative, they live in a world of hidden meanings and possibilities. Only one percent of the population has an INFJ Personality Type, making it the most rare of all the types.

    INFJs place great importance on havings things orderly and systematic in their outer world. They put a lot of energy into identifying the best system for getting things done, and constantly define and re-define the priorities in their lives. On the other hand, INFJs operate within themselves on an intuitive basis which is entirely spontaneous. They know things intuitively, without being able to pinpoint why, and without detailed knowledge of the subject at hand. They are usually right, and they usually know it. Consequently, INFJs put a tremendous amount of faith into their instincts and intuitions. This is something of a conflict between the inner and outer worlds, and may result in the INFJ not being as organized as other Judging types tend to be. Or we may see some signs of disarray in an otherwise orderly tendency, such as a consistently messy desk.

    INFJs have uncanny insight into people and situations. They get "feelings" about things and intuitively understand them. As an extreme example, some INFJs report experiences of a psychic nature, such as getting strong feelings about there being a problem with a loved one, and discovering later that they were in a car accident. This is the sort of thing that other types may scorn and scoff at, and the INFJ themself does not really understand their intuition at a level which can be verbalized. Consequently, most INFJs are protective of their inner selves, sharing only what they choose to share when they choose to share it. They are deep, complex individuals, who are quite private and typically difficult to understand. INFJs hold back part of themselves, and can be secretive.

    But the INFJ is as genuinely warm as they are complex. INFJs hold a special place in the heart of people who they are close to, who are able to see their special gifts and depth of caring. INFJs are concerned for people's feelings, and try to be gentle to avoid hurting anyone. They are very sensitive to conflict, and cannot tolerate it very well. Situations which are charged with conflict may drive the normally peaceful INFJ into a state of agitation or charged anger. They may tend to internalize conflict into their bodies, and experience health problems when under a lot of stress.

    Because the INFJ has such strong intuitive capabilities, they trust their own instincts above all else. This may result in an INFJ stubborness and tendency to ignore other people's opinions. They believe that they're right. On the other hand, INFJ is a perfectionist who doubts that they are living up to their full potential. INFJs are rarely at complete peace with themselves - there's always something else they should be doing to improve themselves and the world around them. They believe in constant growth, and don't often take time to revel in their accomplishments. They have strong value systems, and need to live their lives in accordance with what they feel is right. In deference to the Feeling aspect of their personalities, INFJs are in some ways gentle and easy going. Conversely, they have very high expectations of themselves, and frequently of their families. They don't believe in compromising their ideals.

    INFJ is a natural nurturer; patient, devoted and protective. They make loving parents and usually have strong bonds with their offspring. They have high expectations of their children, and push them to be the best that they can be. This can sometimes manifest itself in the INFJ being hard-nosed and stubborn. But generally, children of an INFJ get devoted and sincere parental guidance, combined with deep caring.

    In the workplace, the INFJ usually shows up in areas where they can be creative and somewhat independent. They have a natural affinity for art, and many excel in the sciences, where they make use of their intuition. INFJs can also be found in service-oriented professions. They are not good at dealing with minutia or very detailed tasks. The INFJ will either avoid such things, or else go to the other extreme and become enveloped in the details to the extent that they can no longer see the big picture. An INFJ who has gone the route of becoming meticulous about details may be highly critical of other individuals who are not.

    The INFJ individual is gifted in ways that other types are not. Life is not necessarily easy for the INFJ, but they are capable of great depth of feeling and personal achievement.

    Jungian functional preference ordering:

    Dominant: Introverted Intuition
    Auxilliary: Extraverted Feeling
    Tertiary: Introverted Thinking
    Inferior: Extraverted Sensing

Friday, January 2, 2009

New Year resolution........ i say that i don't make one

i always say that i don't make a new years resolution because i always break it. i just tell my self i am having a lifestyle change.

1. Keep my upstairs clean and organized keep to my cleaning list.
2. think about what i say before i say it/better communication
3. read at least 10 books from my book list
4. keep a positive attitude at work
5. stop feeling guilty for no reason
6. don't let my mom's unnessasary comments affect me.
7. keep to my budget
8. keep to my savings plan
9. meditate everyday
10. read for at least one hour a day
11. excercise four times a week
12. vist my nana in michigan
13. be more social
14. keep up with laundry/ folded and put away
15. dejunk the basement
16. keep my flowerbeds and garden weeded in the summer.
17. get my dog spayed
18. learn 37 move tai chi form
19. pass all of my classes with a b
20. Dress in dress clothes on work days (even though i dont have to)

these are mostly my everyday tasks that i hope to stick with i have been trying to do most of them some days its great others not so much.